Ever feel like good things in your life just have a way of falling apart? The moment you acknowledge that things are actually going smoothly, the whole damn thing implodes?  Yeah, me too, friend. If Murphy’s Law (anything that can go wrong will go wrong) has you white-knuckling your way through wedding planning,  this post is your permission to exhale (inspired by this podcast episode).

We’ll talk about that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach – the one that whispers, “It’s all going to be taken away.”  Because let’s be honest, planning a wedding can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. One minute you’re swooning over cake samples, the next you’re convinced your dream venue will double-book your date.

But here’s the thing: life rarely goes exactly according to plan.  The good news?  How we manage our thoughts and handle unexpected detours impacts our experience.  That includes your wedding.  Let’s ditch the “other shoe” mentality and shift your mindset for a joyful planning journey.

Why Do We Fear the Good Stuff?

We all have our own set of worries, and it’s normal to have some concern, especially if your past hasn’t exactly instilled a ton of confidence that things work out as they should.  These negative core beliefs –  deep-seated fears formed in childhood or past experiences – can creep in and sabotage our present happiness.

For example, a bride might be planning a dream wedding after a string of disappointments.  Suddenly, a smooth planning process triggers the fear that it’s “too good to be true,”  waiting for the inevitable crash.  Common triggers include family disapproval, a history of things falling apart at the last minute, or simply the feeling that good things just don’t happen to you.

How Does Fear Hold You Back Hostage Down ?

When we expect the worst, even in positive situations, it can manifest in a few ways. You might find yourself procrastinating on important decisions,  over-controlling every detail to avoid mistakes,  or even self-sabotaging by creating unnecessary drama.  Worst of all,  this fear can steal the joy from what should be an exciting and happy time.  You DESERVE a joyful journey and you have a CHOICE.

Listen, I’m not minimizing anyone’s struggles.  But  I want to empower you to break the cycle of negative thinking.  The good news is, you have more control over your experience than you might think!

By consciously shifting your mindset, you can rewrite the narrative and choose to believe that things will go well.   It’s about harnessing the power of your thoughts to create a positive and joyful wedding planning journey.

3 Simple Steps To Shift Your Mindset


Gratitude Practice

Taking a few minutes each day to focus on the good things in your wedding planning journey can dramatically shift your mood.   Jot down 3-5 things you’re grateful for in a notebook  – finding your perfect dress, a supportive bridesmaid,  or even just a fun planning session with your fiancé.

Reframe  Thoughts

Catch yourself slipping into negative thinking patterns?  Stop and reframe that self-doubt!  Instead of, “This is all going to fall apart,” try, “No matter what happens, I can handle it.”  Remember, even if things don’t go exactly according to plan, you’ll still have a beautiful wedding day.

Use Affirmations

These are powerful declarations that can reprogram your subconscious mind.  Find affirmations that resonate with you,  like “My wedding is going to be beautiful” or “Things always work out for me in the end.”  Repeat them daily and truly believe them.

Looking for support?

These are just the first steps!  In the “Wedding Wellbeing” series on my podcast (especially Part 2), we dive deeper into managing stress and cultivating self-care practices specifically for brides.  You could also go check out episodes 17 and and 81  from my old show, “Roots Change”  by clicking here.  

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Don’t let fear steal your joy!  Share your experiences in the comments below and let’s build a supportive community of brides.   Follow me on social media for more wedding planning advice and inspiration, and remember to subscribe to the podcast!